Tom Russell - Heritage Christian Counseling Ministries
Every Thursday during the 8 o'clock and 9 o'clock hour, WVMC General Manager Scott Saunders and Tom Russell from Heritage Christian Counseling Ministries sit down and talk about issues facing the family.
Topic for December 18th: Unconditional Love and Acceptance
Unconditional love and acceptance. When your husband needs your unconditional love, it simply means that he needs you to love him and receive him no matter what. Unconditional love starts with God: He loved us even though we didn’t deserve it. He loves us even though we are full of pride and self-centeredness. In the same way, put aside your own needs to meet your husband’s needs.
#2: Sexual intimacy. Less than 50 per cent and up to 90 per cent of a man’s self-image is locked up in his sexuality. Sex, passion, pleasing the woman he loves – that’s what makes a man feel like a man. Consequently, when a man experiences sexual rejection from his wife, he may shut down, pull away – or worse – do something morally stupid. To meet his sexual needs, talk to God about it.
Men and women sure are different! It doesn’t take science to tell us that. All we need to do is look at how any group of guys or girls interact to begin to see some differences. Obviously, these are generalities, but here are just a few of the differences between men and women:
When guys need encouragement, they typically go for the slap on the back from the guys on the court. When women need encouragement, they want hugs from their supportive friends. Men look to their friends to be just company. Women want emotional connection in friendships.
Topic for December 11th: Coping with Grief at Christmas
Please CLICK HERE for the article on "Coping with Grief at Christmas" by Stacie Ruth Stoelting at CBN.com, that Tom Russell and Scott talked about.
Topic for December 4th: Christmas Gifts to Children
Communicating Self Worth to Children:
- Communicate personal self worth to your child. This is done by using not only your words, but also your tone.
- Celebrating their success helps them not only feel good about themselves but also see themselves as successful.
- Speak in appropriate tones with your child. Children go into trauma mode when they are yelled at. This impacts their ability to think clearly and make good decisions.
- Communicate value by using words that reflect their character. ex. Patient, helpful, kind, and caring.
- Accepting them right where they are is accepting them. This is one of the great motivators.
- Communicate value by help them willing rather than putting them on a guilt trip for asking.
- Communicate value by respecting them. Considering their opinions and feelings is respecting them.
The first gift we gave to our children was the gift of the right path - of knowing Jesus Christ.
Proverbs 22:6 "Teach our children to choose the right path and when they are old they will remain on it."
The second gift we gave to our children was the gift of letting the children know that mom and dad will always love each other.
John 13:34 & 35 "So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have love you, you should love each other. Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples."
The third gift we gave our children was the gift of our commitment to apologize when we are wrong.
James 1:19 "My dear brothers and sisters, be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to get angry."
Your anger can never make things right in God's eyes. Has it occurred to us to do this for our children?