Tom Russell - Heritage Christian Counseling Ministries

Every Thursday between 8 and 9 a.m. during the Wally Show, WVMC General Manager Scott Saunders and Tom Russell from Heritage Christian Counseling Ministries sit down and talk about issues facing the family.

This week, we are talking about Sure Fire Marraige Killers. Over the next two weeks, five things you DON'T want in your marraige.

1. Overcommitment and Physical Exhaustion. These two are th etwo leading reasons why couples don't have more intimacy. You have to save some of yourself to give to your spouse. More on those "emotional bank accounts" in a bit.

2. Selfishness. You might say we are all born experts at this. We all have emotional bank accounts. In marriage we either make deposits or withdrawls. If both spouses are making deposits, you are giving to your marraige. This produces a synergistic relationship (Tom explains that big word on the program). The short version - we are stronger together than we are apart. If one or both spouses are making withdrawls from the emotional bank account, the marraige relationship suffers. Tom calls it a recipe for disaster.

3. Unrealistic expectations. If you have high expectations in your marriage and they aren't me, how does that feel? Then, how is that communicated? The logical response might be to lower your expectations. If you do that, and your expectations are now exceeded, how does that feel? This is different for every couple.

4. Abuse and addiction. Most secular counselors agree that these are the main reasons for divorce. Christian counselors, like Tom, would seek healing before divorce.

5. Pornography. The percentages of CHRISTIAN men falling to this is staggering. BUT! Hoope is here! If your marraige is struggling from this, seek professional Christian counseling from someone like Tom fast!

6. Struggles with physical intimacy. This leads to loneliness, low self esteem, and infidelity. They will rot away at a marraige over time Christian counseling can help in this area as well.

If you would like to find out more, call Tom Russell at Heritage Christian Counseling Ministries at 419-756-2828, or click HERE to link to Hereitage's website!